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Be real, be yourself, be happy

This quote from Zig Ziglar is pretty self-explanatory when you sit there and read it.

I’ve found that it’s always better to be yourself than trying to be someone you’re not. Over the years, people have been more receptive to me when I’m myself or I present myself in a genuine manner. I don’t know what it is, but people tend to enjoy talking to me and like the stuff I enjoy talking about, even if it’s a bit nerdy or outside of their wheelhouse. Likewise, I enjoy when a person is presenting themselves to me as they would anyone else – it’s not easy but you showing your true self, makes spending time with them that more special.

It’s also good to be honest with others. Some people may not like some of the things you have to say, but they’ll appreciate you being upfront when you have a problem with them. I’ve unfortunately had times when I should have been honest with people when I had an issue or saw something I felt they shouldn’t have been doing and I didn’t say anything. There’s one instance I think I could have prevented a close friend from ruining his professional and business life had I said something to him about the issue.

You also have to humble. That doesn’t mean don’t tell others about your accomplishments, but you shouldn’t rub it in people’s faces. Most of the time when you achieve success, there are others who have helped you along the way. And there are other occasions where you did things on your own. It’s fine to say that too, but don’t let that ruin your relationship with others.

Most importantly, you have to be happy. I’ve learned that being happy in mind will benefit you in other areas, personally and professionally.

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More wise words from Jodi Kisstien

Here are some wise words from an old school friend Jodi. She also gave some context in a Facebook post below.

“There have been countless times that I have been guilty of not doing something I said I was going to. Whether it be a change of heart, paralyzed by fear or the amount of work it will take, or not thinking I can actually make it work. It still happens to me and is something I think majority of us will go through for the rest of our lives. Living in fear and doubt is no way to live and you’ll end up with more regrets than moments you were proud of yourself. Perfectionism equally paralyzes you. But here’s the good news, we are all perfectly imperfect, we have to get messy before we can be good at anything. Strap on a rubber butt so that when you fall down you bounce right back up.”

Take Time to Reconnect with Old Friends

If had to sum up my weekend, it would be the words written on this coffee mug I drank my latte from on Saturday.

After we closed the Journal office on Friday, I drove from Ritzville to Spokane to meet up with some old friends.

The reason for this quick weekend trip home was simple — I was homesick and I needed to see my friends. I’ve lived in Ritzville for three months and while I’ve met some good people and have gotten to know a little bit about them through my job, I haven’t really engaged in any intellectual conversations with folks or formed any real friendships. I understand some people are shy and others don’t know how to approach you or start a conversation. In some cases, especially in a small town like Ritzville, it’s because people don’t want to engage outsiders.

The lack of connections and conversations made me a bit paranoid and I started thinking people didn’t want to talk to me because there was something wrong with me. I didn’t feel I was good enough to hold or maintain a friendship. It really wore me down and one night when I was at the Pastime Bar and Grill, I said, “I’m miserable. I want to go home.”

Don’t get me wrong, I do like living in Ritzville. It’s a nice community and I don’t plan on leaving the area for a while unless work takes me somewhere else. I also didn’t want to continue feeling this way because I know if I was worn down in my personal life, it would seep into my work, which would have created more problems.

I first texted Bri and I made plans to see him. Then I texted Jas to see her schedule. Once I was in Spokane, I talked with Cronin, Double A and Lavender Lass (LL). I chose this particular group of folks, because I met them at different points in my life and all of them have seen my growth in the last few years.

Every activity with this group of friends was different.

Hanging out with Bri consisted of a movie, drinks, and some classic Super Nintendo.

I met Double A and Cronin at the Perry Street Brewery with Jaz.

Jaz and I spent most of the night at the Lantern Tap House and partook in its Freshtival beer tasting where we indulged in various fresh hop ales from Oregon and Southern Idaho.

Lavender Lass joined us at the brewery, but she was unable to stay long. I wanted to see her again before I left and, after some wisdom and encouragement from both God/the Universe and Jaz, I met with LL the next day for coffee before I left for Ritzville.

Both of us shared the details and developments happening in our lives. For me, I took away plenty of advice and wisdom from LL on how I can improve my life and I’m already making some positive changes. She also told me she wants to see my adventures in Ritzville.

I didn’t realize how much I needed this trip. I realized that I have people back home who are cheering me on and want to see me succeed.

Even when you move away, your closest friends will always be with you, but it’s important to put in the effort to maintain the relationship, especially if there are people who you want to keep close in your life. To quote LL, perfect friends make the effort and make their friends a priority.

I know I’ll adjust to Ritzville and I’ll make some friends in the next several months, but I won’t forget where I came from and who helped me get to where I’m at.

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